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Case 23: Patient Who Exhibits Symptoms Of Borrowed Dreams

Maida Asif

Patient Identification:

Name: Confidential.

Age: 19 years.

Gender: Not clinically significant.

Nationality: Pakistani.

Chief Complaint:

Despite measurable success, the patient is still feeling persistent emptiness.

History of Present Illness:

According to the patients’ reports, every milestone is achieved on time. From getting straight A*s to clearing the entrance exam and securing admission on merit in a top medical college. Publicly, the family expresses pride, and privately, they show their gratitude. The extended family of the patient considers them an “inspiration.”

Despite all of these accolades, the patient complains of a very unusual symptom: a quiet question that appears in their mind at night, which is “Why does this not feel like mine?” 

No history of academic failure is captured. No signs of any kind of abuse are shown. No rebellion phase. Compliance has been at the top since an early age.

Development History:

Since an early age, this patient was frequently described as “bright” and “doctor material.” Even before the formation of self-identity, they were exposed to clinical settings. The career path was introduced not as an option but as an inheritance.

Statements recorded during childhood:

  • “You will continue what we could not.”
  • “Our dream is in your hands.”
  • “You are our pride.”

Before even discovering any preference, the patient internalised ambition.

Family History:

Strong presence of unfulfilled parental ambitions. One parent discontinued their higher studies due to financial constraints. The other reports sacrificed their personal ambitions for family stability. Both of the parents don’t show any ill-natured intent. The motivation that grows in this space is rarely selfish. It is rooted in love, in the longing for security, and in the promise of social strength. 

Examination Findings:

Externally functional. Task performance is efficient. Speaking in a respectable tone. However, when asked, “If no one were watching, what would you choose?” the patient demonstrates pure silence.

When discussing the future, the patient is affected slightly and flattened. Animated only when recalling their unrelated childhood interest, such as writing, art, or literature, but it was gradually not prioritised “for practicality.”

Investigations:

No biochemical abnormalities seen. No cognitive impairment. No psychiatric diagnosis meeting Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) criteria. Primary abnormality appears existential.

Provisional Diagnosis:

Inherited Ambition Disorder, which is characterised by the chronic chasing of externally implanted goals resulting in achievement without any sort of ownership.

Discussion:

There is this collectivist kind of culture in Pakistani societies; dreams are rarely individual. They are more like familial investments. A child does not simply choose a profession, but they do sacrifice it. They repair histories. They carry unfinished stories forward.

This disorder does not present as a failure. It presents as a success that feels strangely hollow.

The patient is not ungrateful. The patient loves the parents with great depth. This is the reason why this condition persists. Guilt prevents deviation. Love silences doubt.

This tragedy is very subtle: there are chances of the patient becoming an excellent doctor, engineer, and bureaucrat but still quietly mourn a life that was never tested.

Borrowed dreams are very, very heavy. They fit well on resumes but poorly on the soul.

Management Plan:

  1. Slow reintroduction of self-inquiry.
  2. Permission to differentiate love from obligation must be granted.
  3. Giving proper recognition that fulfilling one’s own dream is really not a betrayal.
  4. Family dialogue when culturally safe.
  5. Redefining success beyond social applause.

Prognosis:

Guarded.

If untreated, a patient may live a stable and respectable life with periodic episodes of unexplained sadness.

 

 

 

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Maida Asif is a contributor at Jarida Today, where she writes compelling stories that explore the heart of culture, identity, and social change. With a sharp eye for underrepresented narratives, Maida focuses on amplifying voices that are too often overlooked, crafting pieces that are both thought-provoking and deeply human.
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