The strength of the word ‘no’ lies in the fact that even a child of a few months can truly understand it and become really offended when they hear a strong ‘no’ from elders. For generations after generations, women were culturally trained and expected to perpetually say ‘yes’ all the time, and it cost them their time, energy, and well-being.
Saying yes has always been an easy and seemingly successful key to being liked, respected, and needed. Women have always been “endlessly available,” leaving no room for themselves.
“Space”, “me time”, and “self-love” are new words used by Gen Z and Generation Alpha — words that were unavailable to the previous generations, especially to women of Gen Z and all generations before.
Now, we should, as a generation, really understand that saying no is not a rejection but healing; it is allowing space for yourself. It can be the most productive word for women, and they should not feel awkward saying no, if necessary. By gracefully saying ‘no’, you can be saying ‘yes’ to what really matters to you. In this way, you can set boundaries with clarity and confidence and hence prioritise your self-being.
With boundaries, relationships don’t fall apart if they are selfless, pure, and strong; in fact, they become even stronger. Setting boundaries is an essential, healthy feminist act of self-preservation and self-respect. Whether it is a relationship, at work, or with family, learning to say no is a radical act of self-care and a crucial step towards personal growth. It is not a selfish act; it is essential to keep yourself from burning out, or you will lose yourself in the process of pleasing others.
To conclude, the power of ‘no’ lies in its ability to protect your time, energy and wellbeing. By overcoming the fear associated with this word, women can set boundaries and lead more authentic, balanced, and fulfilling lives. They can save their time, energy and well-being and become more energetic and productive human beings.
Therefore, women must learn how to say no before they experience burnout. It’s never too late.